Dani’s own experiences in life started a journey of self discovery quite early on in her twenties. The divorce of her parents when she was 11 years old, creating imbalanced relationships herself, manifesting an eating disorder as a way of getting back at herself for not being able to make a relationship last, experiencing her mum's mental illness, depression and schizophrenia as well as observing her dad's addiction to alcohol. She was looking for a better life, knowing deep down inside there must be another way than what she observed from her parents.
It started out with a desire to understand what it takes to have a successful relationship. She was pointed back to cultivate the relationship with herself, to learn to love and accept herself. She started studying her own behaviors, getting interested in just how she was operating as a human being. She learnt about "instantaneous transformation" about just how through merely seeing unwanted behaviors, bringing awareness to them, they transform all by themselves without having to fix and work hard on herself.
Her journey of self discovery took her to study many teachings & psychologies over the years from NLP, Hypnosis, Time Line Therapy, Reiki, New Energy Psychology, Energy Management & becoming a Death Transition Guide.
During that journey Dani asked herself lots of questions from "Who am I", how do we operate as human beings, what does it mean we're spiritual beings, is there life after death, are we more than just human, what is consciousness and what is enlightenment & self realisation?
Dani now shares her own insights with other people on what she has seen and discovered on her own journey, supporting other people through their awakening and elightenment. She is passionate about helping people discover the truth of who they are beyond all those made up images of themselves.
She works with people to help them realise their mental and spiritual well-being to end suffering, addictions, mental imbalances and eating disorders...by simply bringing more understanding to the human experience.
“If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world” – Sydney Banks
When I first heard that quote it gave me goose bumps. It hit home. It made me realise just how much I was still scared of feeling my own feelings. I was scared of feeling scared, disappointed, sad, frustrated, depressed, hurt and it was stopping me in my tracks, it was stopping me from feeling my own personal freedom, to give myself permission to feel whatever I was feeling and to know I’m okay underneath it all.
I realised my feelings constantly change and they weren’t an indication of how I was doing but rather a reflection of what I was thinking in that moment. My own feelings were no longer these drawn out feelings that lasted forever but rather in the moment expressions of how I felt moment to moment.
When I discovered that my feelings came from my own in the moment thinking, they came from inside of me and that nobody had the power to make me feel a certain way, once I saw that…there was no longer anything to be frightened of….because all I was ever doing was feeling my own feelings.
I knew I was creating my own reality from within myself through thought and consciousness. The way I saw the world, the way I interpreted situations, interactions and relationships…was my own way of relating to the world in a way that made sense to me. So I started questioning all the things I was scared of to take my power back again. Only I could do it because it was me who believed those illusions to be real in the first place ie whether it was me being scared of being used and hurt by other people, scared of not having enough money, scared of public speaking…these were all my own self created monsters I made up and they were running the show, until I was ready to take my power back.
If it is all coming from inside of me…what is there to be frightened of? Instead of trying to control people for them to show up a certain way in order for me to feel okay, I realised I am already okay regardless of what happens and regardless of how people show up. I felt a tremendous amount of freedom, it was the end of me playing power games and struggling my way through life, trying to control each and everyone and everything “out there”.
Behaviors that no longer made sense to me simply dropped away all by themselves and I could bounce back from situations much quicker, simply by acknowledging what I was feeling but not making it mean anything or not feeling the need to act it out. Simply feeling was enough. I was able to connect up with my true self more and more instead of plugging into the old roles I played, where I kept recreating the same old victim stories and patterns that I grew tired of.
I learnt that other people had separate realities and that it was okay not to agree with other people, that they saw the world in a way that made sense to them and as a result act in ways that makes sense to them. I learnt that nothing is ever personal because we all do the best we can with the thinking we have available and each of us have our own wisdom to draw upon depending on our own level of consciousness we have available and the experiences we each went through.
Sometimes we innocently behave in ways to protect ourselves from getting hurt again, we fight, we put up shields…we do all sorts of stuff innocently, doing the best we can to make it through life without getting severely damaged.
I reached a point where it no longer made sense to hide, to protect myself from getting hurt, to put up defence mechanisms. It was time to truly be me, to connect to my true self, the ‘I’ that can’t get hurt.
And I'm here to support you do the same...to drop your defenses and start living again.