Let us together transform grief, through dancing, painting & singing.
Grief is a full-body experience.
Grief is an energy field that wants to move through you and grief can’t unless you allow it to. Otherwise, it settles in your bones and makes you sink in pain.
Grief can show up as feelings of sadness, depression, anger, stress, overwhelm, anxiety, tension, loss of appetite, fatigue, guilt, self-blame, isolation, numbness, detachment from others, bitterness about the loss…whatever the feelings, allow them to move through you.
You can help grief move through you with music and dance.
Did you know that mourning using dance, painting, and singing as a creative outlet has been a tradition? For years, people have used movement to mourn, heal, and celebrate.
Grief dancing used to be part of a ceremony when someone passed away.
Grieving is natural…suppressing it is unnatural.
How Does Avoidance Harm Your Health?
Research shows that rumination, or repetitive, negative, self-focused thought, is actually a way to avoid problems. People who ruminate shift attention away from painful truths by focusing on negative material that is less threatening than the truths they want to avoid. This pattern of thinking is strongly associated with depression.
Rumination and other forms of avoidance demand energy and block the natural abilities of the body and mind to integrate new realities and heal. Efforts to avoid the reality of loss can cause fatigue, weaken your immune system, increase inflammation, and prolong other ailments.
It can be hard to make life work again after a close family member dies. Losing a partner can mean having to move out of a shared home or having to reach out to other loved ones for help, which can further increase emotional stress and worry. The stress of adjusting to changes in life and health during and after a loss can increase vulnerability and reduce adaptive reserves for coping with bereavement.
Emotional and physical self-care are essential ways to ease complications of grief and boost recovery. Exercising, spending time in nature, getting enough sleep, and talking to loved ones can help with physical and mental health.
Grief is a natural, instinctive response to loss, adaptation occurs naturally, and healing is the natural outcome, especially with time and the support of loved ones and friends.
Grief researchers emphasize that social support, self-acceptance, and good self-care usually help people get through normal grief.
But the researchers say people need professional help to heal from complicated grief and depression.
The thing about grief and depression and sorrow and being suicidal is that you can’t reach out. For many people going through a hard time, reaching out is impossible. If your friend is in grief, reach out to them. Do the legwork. They’re often too exhausted!
Lean into the grief, you only get to grieve your loved one once. Don’t spend the whole time trying to distract yourself or push it down. It does go away eventually, and you will miss feeling connected to that person again. And if you feel like your whole life has fallen apart, that’s fine! You get to decide how to put yourself back together. There’s a new life to be lived all around you.
People grieve a lost friendship or relationship at a level similar to the death of a close family member or friend — and no matter what you’re grieving, other people may expect you to bounce back long before you’re ready.
We live in a society that wants us to get over it and move on.
Grief usually incorporates denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance.
What Causes Grief?
Although we may think of grief only in terms of death, a deep sense of loss comes in response to many more events:
We don’t recognize all the different aspects of grief. When we don’t, people feel they’re not allowed to grieve. It does a disservice to their recovery.
The griefing process can take anything from 6 months to up to 5 years.
Life is a process of accumulating losses. How we integrate or ignore, process or push away those losses — of everything: jobs, friendships, relationships, health, things that matter to us — starts to become patterns. It shapes how we look at the world, who we become, how we’re able to show up for other people.
After the death of a loved one, people were more likely to spend more time with others. They were also the group most likely to turn to spiritual practices. Those dealing with a serious illness and those who lost a relationship found music to be a comfort.
The people who were the most helpful were the ones who just sat with me and didn’t want me to tell them how to help. They just showed up, cut the lawn, brought coffee. And they didn’t give advice about how to get over it.
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Death dancing each Friday on IGTV Live at 6.30 pm at https://instagram.com/danielaeichberger